I’ve struggled with this for as far back as middle school days. From a young age, we are taught what good and bad friends look like, and when we get older, we start to learn what healthy and unhealthy intimate relationships consist of. What teachers/parents/mentors don’t tell us is that we deal with and put up with what we think we deserve. For years, I convinced myself my high school relationship was just fine and we were happy, when the rest of the world saw right through it (and eventually, so did we). The same happens with friendship.
A good example of the point I’m trying to make happened junior year of high school. My best friend of eleven years and I were drifting apart and I took it upon myself to mend things, to make our friendship what it had been before this bomb called high school hit our lives. I would call to ask if she wanted to hang out, invite her into my homecoming/prom group, ask to study with her, etc. But it was always a no. She had new friends, which was great. It wasn’t that she had made new friends besides me, it was that eventually she seemed to wonder why we stopped hanging out, ignoring the fact that I had tried to stay in touch with her. I decided during the semester I was done reaching out to her. If she wanted to hang out with me, she could come to me and ask. I was done being the only person putting in effort. Friendship is not a one-way street.
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Having just graduated college with two internships under my belt and now settling into my post-grad career, I realized today I’ve been calling on experiences I gained in my internships to adjust to this new work life.
Internships are awesome for students; they offer experience not otherwise attainable to young adults still making their way to the graduation finish line (keep going, you can do it!) and they look bomb on a resume. I realized I learned a lot more than technical lessons, I learned some pretty valuable life lessons during my internships as well.
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To my surprise (and my liking) 2018 was full of fun travels and adventures. I visited Boston (a bucket-list item) over the summer with my mom, drove to Daytona, Florida with my dad in December, and took many joyful trips to the lake with my family.
I was fortunate to have been able to start 2019 off with more adventures! Just a few weeks after a friend and I returned from Mississippi, my mom, boyfriend, and I hopped on a plane to Destin, Florida.
The beach is one of many places that make me feel whole, secure, and present; something about large bodies of water that bring out my inner light, ya know? While my boyfriend and I were off on our own little adventures, I made a point to make sure I was really soaking in the moment, to really feel like I was living, breathing, and enjoying life to the fullest wherever God placed me. Have you ever felt like your body showed up, but you mind is floating somewhere in space rereading your to-do list? I feel ya, sister.
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